Following on from "I Can Do It" London 2012 - Part 1, I wanted to share about my experience of Day 2.
Louise Hay and Cheryl Richardson
|Louise and Cheryl|
Louise and Cheryl’s talk was really great. It was fun, intimate and very enlightening. We all laughed a lot and Louise mentioned a few times within their talk about the importance of having fun when learning and making changes in our lives.
“Life loves you”. “Loving yourself is all you need to do”. “Your job is to stay focused on creating a good, loving relationship with yourself and to stay on the path”.
Louise acknowledged how many men were in the audience and said “this is for all of us”; both men and women.
Starting your day
“What is the first thing you say to yourself before you even open your eyes? As you begin your day is how you live your day and how you live your day is a good indication of how you live your life. Be grateful. Affirm that your days going to be wonderful. Thank your bed”! Louise shared about how she always thanks her bed for a wonderful night’s sleep!
“Bring awareness to the habitual thoughts associated with your daily habits. Remember everything you don't like outside of yourself is a reflection. The world is a reflection of our thinking. Everything is affirmations. Thought is energy and it creates. Science is backing this up.”
Louise talked about mirror work and asked “what are you saying to yourself as you do different activities in your day? At one point in the talk, Louise pulled out a hand mirror from her bra! She carries her mirror around so that can take it out regularly to affirm positive, loving thoughts to herself in the mirror.
The thoughts we associate with our habitual actions
Thoughts associated with actions become habits. Louise and Cheryl recommended putting affirmations around the home and Cheryl shared how she now has one in the shower: “I am showered with love all day long”.
Louise then asked “What do you say when choosing clothes? In the shower?” Louise said how it is important to make friends with everything around us; our clothes, furniture, the shower, and our kitchen.
Louise shared that she says “hello” to her appliances and tells her oven she loves it! As she rightly says, the kitchen is the nourishment centre of the home so we need to positively affirm that. For example, rather than saying “I have nothing to wear” you could say “I have wonderful clothes and always choose the right things”. This will bring a change in attitude towards your closet and consequently a change in the actions you take around it and your clothes. Cheryl shared that since doing positive affirmations about her closet she gave many things to charity and only buys clothes she absolutely loves now!
Change your relationship with the things you interact with every day. Make affirmations about what you want (not what you don't want). Make every thought you speak or think on your side, rather than against you or about what you don't want. Let life know how you like it to be lived.
Louise shared about her experiences driving. She sends love to other drivers, affirms it will be a great day and an easy journey that will be quicker than anticipated. She also shared about a reminder in her car to "put a smile on your liver" as our liver is associated with anger; a good antidote to road rage! She asked: what is the feeling you want in your car?
Louise talked about being aware of all the little moments in your life and how you live with yourself longer than with anyone else so to make it the best relationship you can. Forgive yourself and others. Ask yourself what you want to hear. Remember, self-hatred is only hating a thought you have about yourself. Be the most joyous person in the room wherever you are, so that everyone is always excited to see you!
Cheryl recommended that you find a picture of yourself as a child (including seeing eyes and hands) and put it somewhere you'll see it. If you catch yourself speaking negatively to yourself, remind yourself yourself of the picture... you wouldn't talk to a child that way! Create an on-going dialogue of being kind to yourself. Catch yourself when thinking negative thoughts and setting up miserable experiences for yourself.
Dissolving Bad Habits
Louise talked about dissolving bad habits rather than "breaking" them. Dissolving means nothings left; no broken pieces – it all disappears. For example, we can dissolve and let go of bad habits e.g. complaining. Louise reminded us that when we verbalise complaints, we've already been going over it many times in our heads beforehand! No one likes to be around a complainer and when you complain, you attract more things to complain about! If you slip at letting go of habits, just notice, and remember there's nothing wrong.
Rather than making New Year’s resolutions, Louise shared how she imagines how she would like the upcoming year to look and then affirms thoughts aligned with that vision. For example “My happy mind brings me many health benefits”; “this is a breakthrough year for me”, “I am surrounded by love”, etc. Affirm “Life loves me” and then watch for good experiences.
Louise shared what she believes is the key to her success: “I answer the phone and open the mail. It's only ever been about helping other people”. And as Cheryl; reminded us, she really is a success in so many ways. She started on the path in her fifties and amongst many other huge achievements, also runs the very successful publishing company; Hay House.) Bless and prosper others. Look at how you can help life and life will help you.
Louise recommends we bless everything: our desk, lifts; our colleagues, our boss. Send love ahead of us so that wherever we go, we find it waiting for us when we arrive. Bless every person, place and thing.
Louise talked about her work with men with AIDS; many with broken relationships with their family. She had the men affirm ' I have a wonderful relationship with all my family, especially x and y" (whoever the issue was with). She said that mostly the mothers turned up a few months later after affirming these thoughts. She talked about watch how life unfolds as we do this. We can do our bit, whatever they are doing and allow life to unfold. As Louise said, it’s about creating a loving atmosphere for yourself and not about trying to change others. When you see evidence of positive thoughts remind yourself too - it isn't a coincidence.
Louise and Cheryl were so fun during the talk, laughing and gently ribbing each other. They talked about having fun learning. You could start a class, use books / DVD's and discuss them. When we do this work on ourselves we become better people to be around. Louise talked about the importance of staying on your own path and being a powerful example (and not preaching).
Louise shared that for her the two most important things to work on are our thinking and nutrition. She shared that every day she has a green juice and also has a plastic bag in her freezer which she adds all her vegetable scraps etc. to. She boils and simmers this in a pot of water over night with 1/4 cup of apple cider vinegar and strains. She keeps the juice and has 2/3 cups a day and uses as a broth etc. as she said, we need to make it a pleasure to live in our body.
I haven’t got a lot to share about Brian’s talk because it was mostly experiential as he did a group regression. He was really funny and shared some interesting and moving stories about coming onto the path of conducting past life regressions through one of his psychiatry patients. He also shared about the story of Jenny Cockell; a woman who was born in the UK with clear memories of a past life in Ireland. Brian’s books including Many Lives, Many Masters and Through Time Into Healing are very good.
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