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Would you like to worry less about what people think about you? What would life be like if you were truly living it on your terms, rather than other peoples?What other people think about you is none of your business. ~ Unknown
Here are five ways that can help you to stop caring so much about other peoples opinions.
1. Be Selective with Your Connections
Spend time with people that enhance your life and encourage you to be yourself and live on your terms. Be that for other people too.
Avoid people that need you to act a certain way or fulfil their (said or unsaid)obligations in order for them to be happy or validated.
I have noticed that I worry about what someone thinks of me when I don't feel comfortable with them or feel that they don't "get" me. I minimize contact with people that I feel like this with which frees them up to find their people and me to find mine.
Never explain yourself. Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it. ~ Unknown2. Spend Time Alone
Spend time alone and get to know yourself. It is the best way to get in touch with how you feel about anything. Any answers we need can be found within ourselves, if we only take the time to look. Spending time alone helps you tune out other peoples opinion's about you and your life and listen to the person that knows you best: you.
3. Learn from People Who Don't Worry what Other People Think!
Seek out people who don't worry about others opinions. If you know them, you could ask them how they do it. You could let them know that you admire the way they seem to be able to tune out to what other people think and follow their heart.
There are lots of ways to connect with people. If you don't know anyone personally that you want to reach out to at the moment, how about connecting with inspirational people on Twitter for example? There's amazing communities of people crushing conventions and living on their own terms and sharing their stories on the web and all you need to do is join in! If you haven't got a blog already, you could even start one and share your own journey to living life on your terms!
4. Consciously Cultivate Your Intention
Commit to living on your terms and support yourself by finding ways to tune into your own wisdom. Yoga and meditation are two ways that I find helpful in tuning into my own wisdom and letting go of external noise. There are lots of different ways and some will suit you better than others. Some other activities that might be helpful are spending time in nature, walking, writing, doing Morning Pages. Explore and find what feels good for you.
5. Trust Yourself
Learning to trust ourselves is so important. I don't think society is set up to support people with this but really no-one can teach something that they don't know how to do themselves. Trusting ourselves and listening to our intuition isn't predictable and who knows where our hearts will lead us when we really listen to it but that's the fun of the game of life when we really play! Tune out to what other people think and tune into what you think.